As Valentine’s Day is approaching I can’t help thinking about the fact that dating and recruitment have a few things in common. These two missions are quite an important part of our personal and professional life. So, I was interested to give it a go and present the similarities when it comes to recruitment and dating.
With dating you focus on finding “the one”, “your soulmate” who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and in recruitment you are searching for “the perfect candidate”, “moon on a stick” to fill a vacancy at a company. When it comes to finding the “one” in dating, people often like to use online dating apps like Bumble, Tinder, Elite singles etc. where you are required to create your profile. This is just like in recruitment where, to be “the perfect candidate”, you draft your CV that you upload to a job board or create an attractive LinkedIn profile. You would want to make sure you stand out and present your qualities in the best possible way to clearly state you are “the one”.
Both dating and recruitment involve a screening process which, in recruitment, is the interview and in dating is, well, the first few dates. In dating it often happens that you find someone who looks good on paper because they are an adventurous, polite and caring person - but, when it comes to actually dating, there’s no spark. Something similar can happen in recruitment, when you seem to have all the qualifications and experience that the role requires…but it turns out that you are not the “right fit” for the company so it is likely you won’t get the job. This is something you should try not to take too personally as companies have their culture clearly defined, just as in dating when you have standards that not everyone will be able to meet.
Also, it’s quite common that you are not sure how long you should leave it to contact someone after the first dates as you don’t want to come across as too keen, but you also don’t want them to think you are not interested either. In recruitment following up after an interview for example is encouraged but perhaps not on the following day - more likely in the following week as it shows your enthusiasm and interest in the role. Both situations can be tricky!
Maybe the similarities are not so clear when it comes to dating and recruitment but certainly one thing is common that the purpose of dating and recruitment is finding “the one”. Happy Valentine’s Day to you all!